Forget other people’s checklists

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You know this feeling: You get bombarded with blogs, articles, TED talks and videos that constantly tell you a variation of: Click here to learn the [fill in any number between 1-10] ways to [fill in any of your aspirations]. Examples are

To thrive we need a strong back and soft front

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Yesterday I saw this strong back of my wife and the soft front of my son. It reminded me again how important both of these qualities are in both coaching and life. “Strong back, soft front”. These words kept sticking in my mind since I attended the Wisdom 2.0 conference in Singapore. At the time, I attended a guided meditation by Roshi Joan Halifax, who runs the Upaya meditation centre.

The costs of holding on….

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Since I became a father, there is one thing I learned: I need to let go of how things were before. It’s remarkable how much of my personality still would like the same amount of me-time, work time, doing multiple sports and the same amount of time to learn and take courses. And of course, the same amount of sleep as before! Any parent out there knows what I am talking about…

Our fear of contentment

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our fear of contentment

“Are you happy?” Recently, I asked my client this question on day 1 of our executive coaching retreat. He said: “yeah, I think I am quite happy.” I responded: “I am not interested how happy you think you are, but really how happy do you feel?”